Bootcamp For Your Mind

What the hell is WRONG with you? – Moment #32

This week’s WTHIWWY moment goes out to everyone who’s ever uttered the words “I have trouble attracting the right kind of people”  Well, I’ve just got one question for you gentle soul…WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU? Seriously, let’s look at this nugget of wisdom a little more closely.

What, exactly, does the “right type of person” look like?  Are you seeking perfection (Hello! Do I really need to address that?) Have you sat down and taken a look at who you are trying to attract? Go ahead, write it down, make a list of the qualities you’re looking for, I’ll wait…

Now that you see who those people are you WANT to be with, let’s figure out why the hell they aren’t attracted to YOU. So, for example if you are very negative and problem-focused in your life, it will be pretty difficult to attract people who are positive and successful.  Positive and successful people typically like to hang out with positive and successful people.  If what you want is to attract positive and successful people, I recommend working on being a positive person first.  Then, have boundaries.  Part of learning to be a positive person is to stop being around negative people as much as you can – eliminate that energy from your life or just when you think you're out, it will pull you back in. 

So in response if my first question (What the hell is wrong with you?) is this:  what’s wrong with you is that you’re not sure of who you’re looking for, and even if you are, not doing the things you need to do to attract them.  Figure it out first and then start being the type of person that type of person would want to be around!   Are we clear here people?

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Seven Signs You Are NOT Working With an Ass-Kicking Life Coach

Like a personal trainer with an addiction to Chili-Cheese-Fries, a life coach without life skills won't get you far.  Here are some warning signs to look for:

7. In their office there's a poster of a cat hanging from a tree limb with the caption "Hang in there baby, Friday's coming."

6.  They are constantly asking to borrow money

5.  The phrase "you think you've got problems" comes up at least five times in every session you have together

4.  Claim that they "worked with Tony Robbins" is actually "worked AT Baskin Robbins"

3.  Name their own last great accomplishment as completion of free drink card at Coffee Bean.

2.  Want to spend your entire sessions discussing last night's episode of The Hills

1.  All your sessions held in their "ridiculously awesome" room in parent's basement

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Ask Amy: Am I stuck in this cube forever?

Every week, Amy Applebaum reaches into her mailbag and answers your questions about life, love, work, success...anything that requires a kick in the butt to get you on the right track!

Dear Amy

Lately I'm just stagnating at work.  I'm unhappy and seeing all these other people get promotions that I feel like I deserve.  But yet, I never do anything about it!  Am I doomed to sit in this cube for the rest of my life?

Sincerely

Melissa, Los Angeles

Dear Melissa,

Yes…you are doomed if you continue focusing on the problem.  So, what do you do?  First, determine what you want?  Is it a particular position at your current gig?  Or, do you really want to be doing something different?  If you truly wanted the promotion then jump, immediately into solution mode. 

That means, it's time to figure out why you are not getting the promotions.  Now to handle that kind of feedback – you are going to need to put your "thick" skin on.  Adopt the belief that there is not such thing as failure only feedback. 

This way, rather than seeing a lack of promotion as a failure, it is an opportunity for you to get the feedback you need to now get the promotion.  Sometimes we are so afraid of NOT getting what we set out to that we don't even try. 

I can promise you one thing for sure. If you don't try, there is no way you will get the promotion or anything else that you want for that matter.  So, ease up on yourself.  It's not the end of the world if you don't get the promotion and there are other opportunities. 

Right now, focus on how you are actually creating the problem and start creating the solution.

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Come on Lindsay. Let's get it together girl!

When I see celebs in peril, my mind immediately shifts into overdrive as I wonder about how I could help them if they were my client. 

And when I see Lindsay Lohan splashed, yet again, across the virtual pages of TMZ, the first thing I think about is how busy she would keep me - but after that, I can't help but wonder how she feels as all this is going down. 

I'm not making excuses for her, but the thing is, Lindsay and her ilk have problems just like the rest of us, except that our issues aren't played out in front of millions all across the world.   

In fact, even with the long list of items Lindsay and I would have to discuss, at the core I would really focus on adding one thing to her life:  accountability.  See, the problems with all the big one-name celebs is that they have been surrounded by yes-men and yes-women for way too long.  There are no checks and balances in their life.  I would start with Lindsay the same I would with any client- by holding her feet to the fire and kicking her ass to create some goals and then make good on those goals. 

It's not enough to say you want to get clean and restart a once-promising acting career and stay out of the tabloids… girl you've got to come in and see me every week and tell me face-to-face what you accomplished and what you didn't.   If I could get her to do that, I could turn Lindsay into Meryl-freaking-Streep, and we could accomplish some serious things together. 

Want to stop being splashed across Page Six – here's how we're going to do it.  Want get auditions in front of high-caliber directors?  Let's craft a plan so you've got two scheduled for next week.   

Now about getting me mentioned in her next Oscar speech…

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When do you need a coach?

When you are really done with the problem that you are facing...it's time for Bootcamp for Your Mind. Everyone has problems at one time or another...the time for our program is when you don't want to talk about the problem anymore and are really ready to do something about it.  You don't have to know how but you have to be ready to roll your sleeves up and get dirty.  This program is about moving past the problem right now.  It's fast, it's rigorous and, it's life altering. 

Life is a game you have heard many say.  I say, "time to start playing it."

Amy

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